Home truths of becoming a mother.

My first reason why I love being a mother is that, you now have a or in my case two babies who rely on you. For the rest of their life. You have a reason, and a purpose. You have to be a role model. I love the fact that my babies, need me. Okay, their might be one day were they will think they won't need me. But they will.

Secondly, the way your life changes, it's not all about partying, concerts, your celeb crush, favourite band, who's sleeping with who. It is now, how much milk do I have left?, have I took their weaning pot out of the freezer, what time did I last feed him? And I love that, because no matter what age you are, you will never realize how important life is until you have children.

Thirdly, The fact in my case two, become four. We are now a family. I have always been a family kinda girl. So to have my own, is everything and more. I use to be in love with my partner, but when you see him with your babies, you fall in love all over again, and its a different kind of love. A better love. Don't get me wrong, you'll be ready to batter him at a night feed, but hey?! where would be the fun if it was all lovey?

Fourthly, the love. You will never understand what love is until you have children. I would kill for my children. I'm finding it hard to describe to you, but words can't even begin to explain the feeling. This may sound sad, but when the night feeds stopped, and I was ready to put them to bed at 7. I would be upset, that I wasn't seeing them til the morning.

Fifthly, wait is that even a word? I created two humans?! this may be obvious to non mothers. But some mothers may understand me? Anyway, my children are now 5 months old, and I still to this day, look at them and think, ''I made them, they are mine, I didn't purchase them off amazon'. You can't believe that you can make something so amazing and perfect.

Okay their are some down sides that comes along when you become a mother, but are totally worth it.

Firstly, I remember (trying) to get out of my hospital bed, and getting in the shower, I was walking like John Wayne, whilst my partner was helping me, whilst I was shouting at him not to take his eyes off the babies (poor boy). My vagina felt like it was a balloon. I felt deflated and like an army had beaten me up. It's very true that your body will never be the same. I asked my mother for advice and she said my some expensive marks and spencer's suck yourself in pants.. yep still haven't come round to that yet.

Secondly, the worry. Is my baby eating enough?, is my baby pooing? wait what's that black tar stuff coming out of his bum?, first immunizations, in fact all the bloody immunizations. Your worries, will fade away, but the worries you have for your babies will become a lot worse. That is completely normal, and you will get through it. 

Thirdly, Yeah you'll give yourself a hard time, where you don't think your doing things correctly, and that their are better mothers out there. But that's not the case. Just because ''Jenny'' down the road has uploaded 25 photos of her children in an amusement park, whilst your children are only in the back garden, doesn't mean that your children are having any less fun. As long as your children, are happy, fed and watered, who cares?

Fourthly, adjusting to your new life can be strange, you might not bother with the person who's been your best friend for life, or you might just feel lonely. My advice would be, if they are not bothering, then it's their loss. Trust me when they come and visit eventually and your baby does nothing but cry when they pick them up, then they will realise that they really did miss out.

Fifthly, okay that really doesn't sound like a word. That one day that kiss and cuddle is going to be embarrassing, and they won't want to be indoors all the time, they will be out with their friends. Babies don't stay babies for long. so cuddle them while you can.

Just think..

Love every moment of your baby, from newborn til they tell you no, because that time will come..
You've just fed them, and they cry for more, ONLY half an hour later?
Take a deep breathe and be happy,
One day they be somewhere in the world, partying? In their home?
You might not how much they are eatng.

Crying for a cuddle, but you really want to do those dishes?
Take a deep breath, and have that cuddle. One day they might say "mum, stop you're embarrassing me".

Grizzling when you're trying to enjoy a family meal at your local restraunt?
Pick them up and show them where you are. One day it will just be you and your partner.

Another dirty nappy?
Take a deep breath, one day they wont need you to change them.

"Mum, why is the sky blue", "Mum why is the grass green".
Dont get sick of the questions, take a deep breath and answer, they could asl somebody else.

Wont fall asleep in their cot?
Cuddle them, and cuddle them tight, one day they will be on their mobile/computer and up later than you, with no cuddles as that is to embarrassing.

Enjoy every moment, days can be hard. But their not little forever. ❤💙